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THE FAMILY PLEDGE FOR NON-VIOLENCE (DETAIL)

 

Making peace must start with me and then with my family.

On this day, _________ 2016, I commit myself, as best I can, to practice nonviolence and to strengthen my capacity to remain peaceful regardless of circumstances.

I give this pledge:

1 To Respect Myself and Others:

To treat myself with dignity.

To support and encourage others.

To avoid giving uncaring criticism,

To avoid speaking hateful words,

To avoid giving the silent treatment,

To avoid physical attacks and self-destructive behavior.

LIST

Ways ALREADY doing this Possible NEXT steps Your ONE NEXT step

 

 

For example, I will: -

[ ] Write down 5 things I am grateful for each day.

[ ] Write down 5 things you appreciate about yourself

[ ] Write down 5 things you like about each of your family members

[ ] What can you do to take better care of yourself today? Exercise? Avoid soft drinks?

[ ] Think of three ways you can simplify your life

 

 

To Communicate:

To share my feelings honestly.

To look for safe ways to express my anger.

To work at solving problems peacefully. LIST

Ways ALREADY doing this Possible NEXT steps Your ONE NEXT step

 

 

For example, I will:

[ ] Say an affirmation to a friend or family member every day.

[ ] Write down 1 thing that upset you about each of your family members

[ ] When I get angry, I will take a deep breath and walk away for time to cool down.

[ ] When a family member gets angry, I will not retaliate or give silent treatment

[ ] Read a book or attend a class on non-violent communication

[ ] Choose today to see the good in others, rather than finding fault,

[ ] Focus on what I appreciate most about the person I like the least

 

 

To Listen:

To listen carefully to others, especially those who disagree with me.

To consider others’ feelings and values rather than insist on having my own way. LIST

Ways ALREADY doing this Possible NEXT steps Your ONE NEXT step

 


For example, I will:

[ ] Attend a Nonviolent Communication practice group to learn new ways to communicate honestly

[ ] Notice if I have a tendency to interrupt people, and practice letting someone finish their sentence before responding.

[ ] Take a moment to Meditate and to relax.

[ ] Find a quiet place at home to pray each day for a few minutes

[ ] Recite the rosary at least once a month

[ ] Commit to Adoration of the Blessed Sacrament once a month to open your heart to the voice of God.

[ ] I will be compassionate to my family and let them know that they are not alone

 

 

To Forgive:

To genuinely apologise and make amends when I have hurt another.

To forgive others.

To keep from holding grudges and giving the silent treatment. LIST

Ways ALREADY doing this Possible NEXT steps Your ONE NEXT step

 


For example, I will:

[ ] Find time each day to pray, meditate, read a special text, or simply be quiet to open my heart to compassion to myself and others.

[ ] Write a letter/email of apology or forgiveness to someone with whom I have unresolved tension.

 

To Respect Nature:

To treat the environment and all living things, including pets, with respect and care

To live the “mantra” Recyle, Reuse, and Reduce

To be aware of my contribution to noise pollution.

To be aware of the laws on fireworks

Ways ALREADY doing this Possible NEXT steps Your ONE NEXT step

 

 

 

For example, I will:

[ ] Take a reusable bag and produce bag to the grocery store rather than using plastic.

[ ] Recycle bottles, plastic containers, and paper rather than throwing them in the trash.

[ ] Unplug chargers and appliances when not in use.

[ ] Sign up for e-versions of credit card and utilities bills.

[ ] Go to a Farmers Market to support local agriculture and produce

[ ] Nurture a plant or plant a seed in and for the earth.

 

[ ] I will Clean out my closet or garage and find things that might be of value to someone else. I will freely give away what I am no longer using.

 

 

To Play Creatively:

To select activities that support the family values.

To avoid activities that make violence look exciting, funny, or acceptable.

To control my time playing video games

To control my time on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter

LIST

Ways ALREADY doing this Possible NEXT steps Your ONE NEXT step

 

 

For example, I will:

[ ] Take a break from TV, computer and smartphone

[ ] Arrange an outing with my family

[ ] Visit the elderly

[ ] .Play a (board) game with my family, sisters, brothers

[ ] Volunteer for a community youth program at my church or children’s school.

[ ] Committ to a hobby

 

 

To Be Courageous:

To challenge violence in all its forms whenever I encounter it, whether at home, at school, or in the community.

To supports other who are treated unfairly even though I may be afraid..

LIST

Ways ALREADY doing this Possible NEXT steps Your ONE NEXT step

 

 

For example, I will:

[ ] Speak up if I see someone being verbally or physically threatened or hurt, or call for help if it is unsafe for me to do so.

[ ] Read a book about peace building and nonviolence

[ ] Talk to my religious leaders about hosting a training program on building bridges across differences (race, gender, ethnicity, religion, class, etc).

[ ] Be open to understanding ideas and family members that you have previously opposed.

 

 

AFFIRMATION

This IS our pledge.

We will check ourselves on what we have pledged once a month on _________ for the next twelve months so that we can support each other to really try to become better individuals and a (more) united and peaceful family.

 

NAME ----------------------------------------

 

"Eliminating violence, one family at a time, starting with our own family"

How can I make a difference?

How can I help create a climate of non-violence? How can I make a difference?

The answer: Starting with me, then, one person at a time, one family at a time, one community at a time.

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